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For me, 2017 was a pretty good year. I made some awesome new lifelong friends, built on friendships with old ones and traveled to countries I never thought I would ever see in the flesh. Of course, not all of it was easy - far from it in fact. Though, many experiences, whether it was a positive or negative one, taught me something valuable which I'll be sharing in this post.
1. PEOPLE ARE GOING TO JUDGE YOU NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO.
Sure, people say they're non-judgemental or whatever but the truth is, people suck. Kids can be really mean! God, I used to be so absolutely cripplingly self-councious - I'm sure most of us were (or are for that sake). I was so afraid of doing what I wanted in case that someone might judge me, or lose respect for me. The thing is, it was all stupid things, like wearing the clothes I want to wear, or listening to the music I like, or posting things on social media that I thought were interesting. What a waste of time and energy, honestly, on keeping OTHER PEOPLE HAPPY with the sacrifice of LOSING MYSELF and WHO I WANT TO BE. Dude!
And the longer I tried to be everyone else, suppressing who I wanted to be, I realised that people were STILL judgy. Not just towards me, I'm not special - just in general. No matter what you do, people are always going to hate your guts, or disagree with your vision or think you're strange - the list goes on.
2017 was the year I realised the only person worth keeping happy is yourself. DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO! If people talk badly of you behind your back because of it - THAT IS THEIR PROBLEM. You don't like what I post? Unfollow me. You don't like what I wear, or how I do my makeup? Say it to my face. Because in this outfit, I feel more confident than ever. I look good. You don't like me or my friends? Don't talk to us! It really should make absolutely NO impact on the way I want to live my life - and finally, I found this was ringing true. You don't think I'm cool? WHO DEFINES COOL?
2. WHO SAID COOL WAS PREDETERMINED?
It isn't. For me, being your own person is cool - not the stuff that your own person is interested in. Listening to solely anime soundtracks and only wearing the colour purple isn't cool in principle, but in practise. Liking something because you HONESTLY like it - not because it's 'trendy' or 'edgy' and having CONFIDENCE in it by not caring about what anyone thinks? That's cool. And trust me, it shows. You can completely tell who is glowing in self confidence from across the room. I'm not saying I'm there yet - but 2017 was when I noticed HOW COOL AUTHENTICITY IS - no matter how awfully cheesy that sounds.
3. SOME PEOPLE AREN'T WORTH YOUR TIME.
You don't have to agree with everyone. You don't have to like everyone and see good in everyone. To be honest, you don't HAVE to do anything. The sooner you realise that, the better. You don't owe anyone anything. That doesn't mean you shouldn't respect everyone, but if someone isn't worth your time - YOU DON'T NEED TO GIVE IT TO THEM. It is SO important to hang around people who honestly and genuinely make you the happiest person on earth when you're with them.
But it's also important to remember that if you've decided that someone isn't worth YOUR time and thoughts, they can still be important and worthy to others. And that can hurt sometimes, but I learnt to understand that people need different things and people in their life.
4. BE PATIENT.
This, again, sounds like I've just gone on some juice cleanse and bulk bought vegan chocolate, but KARMA COMES BACK AROUND. IT REALLY DOES. I am such a strong believer in karma, man. I've noticed that you seriously get back what you put out whether it's on the larger scale of life in general, or just your attitude towards one person in particular - you always get what you deserve. Even if it takes a while.
After all, GOOD THINGS TAKE TIME. HAPPY 2018.